What about having a baby?

For you, continuing with the pregnancy may be what you really want to do deep down but the circumstances you find yourself in make it difficult. As one girl said, 'It's not the baby that's the problem'.

• Perhaps one of the difficulties you face is that you are still at school or university.
• Perhaps you have financial concerns.
• Perhaps you're unsure about your relationship with the father.
• Perhaps you lack confidence about being a parent - or a single parent.
• Perhaps it's all these things...

Our circumstances are unique to us but, whatever your circumstances, it's important that they don't dictate to you what your decision should be. The best choice isn't always the easiest in the short term. It is possible for you to have a baby even if circumstances are not what you would have wanted. Help is available to support you.

How will I cope with being a mum?

Having a baby isn't just about the practicalities of looking after a baby, providing for it and having somewhere to live. It is also about your emotions as a woman. Choosing to keep your baby is a very positive choice. Your baby will bring you fulfillment, joy and love as well as challenges and you will know in your heart that you have done a good thing for yourself and your child.

It's a good idea to talk to someone who can help you with any anxious thoughts and feelings you may have about being a mum.

A CareConfidential advisor is available for you to talk with on 0800 028 2228. If necessary, she can put you in touch with a local centre who can assist you throughout your pregnancy.

What about money?

What you're entitled to in terms of benefits depends on your circumstances; whether you are at school or at work; whether you live at home, on your own or with your partner.

You can obtain information from www.dwp.gov.uk, the website for the Department for Work and Pensions that deals with benefits. Click on 'people with children' for leaflets relating to expecting a baby.

What about my education?

If you are still in fulltime education, pregnancy is not sufficient reason to exclude you from school unless the headteacher decides that the school isn't a suitable environment for you. It would be helpful to talk to your Connexions advisor about staying at school. See www.connexions.gov.uk

If you are over 19 and a student at college, university or other establishment, then see your tutor.

What about housing?

If you're aged 19 and under, then look at the Connexions website www.connexions.gov.uk and check out the housing page for advice.

For further details, contact your local council's Housing Office and look at the Department for Work and Pensions website www.dwp.gov.uk for details of housing benefit.

For ongoing help with housing and other practicalities, as well as emotional support, contact your nearest pregnancy crisis centre.