My partner is pregnant

This may be a complete shock to you. Perhaps you feel OK about it. Perhaps you feel angry that it's happened. Perhaps you feel desperate to 'do something' about it.

Whatever you're feeling, your response to the situation will affect your partner.

My partner is pregnant what can I do?

• Find out what your partner is expecting of you in this situation.
• Many men feel at a loss about how to help their partner when facing an unplanned pregnancy. A first instinct is often to say, 'whatever you choose, I'll support you'. This sounds positive but your partner may interpret it to mean: 'The decision is yours. I'll go along with what you think. I don't want to take responsibility.' Whereas some women might welcome this attitude, some feel that the decision making process becomes more difficult as a result.
• Few women want to make a choice about a pregnancy without the support of their partner. Some couples pull apart and place the 'problem'between them. This can cause tension and conflict. Stand with your partner as much as you are able.
• Tell your partner, kindly, what you honestly feel about the pregnancy. Don't assume she knows what you think. Be clear but not pressurizing.
• Your partner has a right to make an informed decision - help her to look at all the information available on all the options.

My partner is pregnant what are my rights?

• As a prospective father, even if you are married, you have no legal rights to prevent or insist upon abortion or continuing the pregnancy.

Who can help me?

• Whatever your circumstances, it is helpful to talk things through with someone outside of your situation. Call CareConfidential on 0800 028 2228 to talk to a trained advisor confidentially or visit a pregnancy counselling centre with or without your partner.Click here to find your nearest centre.